I had a very funny roundabout way of figuring things out. I used to go around and around in dragon-related webrings and absorb all the knowledge at one point I actually joined a draconity email newsletter without fully comprehending what it was beyond "yay dragons" any self progress made there was swiftly and soundly reversed after rubbing elbows with "otakin" which was a largely facebook-based community of specifically anime based fictionkin... and was kiiinda maybe a doomsday cult it was unclear how serious people were with that but it scared me away for a bit. But then I got better. I started like actually engaging with the EARLY kin community on tumblr (2014) and started actually calling myself otherkin around that time. Based on how Weird people would be I would sometimes just avoid directly saying "otherkin" and going with "draconity" in order to avoid various hatemail spam waves. the essay "Gender Furry II: Now With More Scales" that was hosted on the late [adjective][species] site was revolutionary in how I think and move through the world. I don't know where or how to access it these days but I'm sure someone archived it somewhere... Also at one point I became mutuals with THE Orion Scribner (of "Theri There" and "Otherkin Timeline" fame)on the fediverse which i think. is pretty cooool.

But uh yah. I'm Autumn I'm just a dragon in both gender and species. not ACTUALLY a wyvern thats just my fursona and I'm not gonna change that because I think its really funny to have to clarify. I do get the phantom limbs sensations you sometimes hear us more creature-y folk talk about, and this has been a thing for about as long as I can remember... Most common feelings are tail and wings, occasionally floppity ears as well, I used to have a very kinda fang-y-maw-y feeling but I haven't in forever... uuh ya. rawr. ^.=.^