cool in-depth hs character gender discussion i cannot find

ok it's late asf and i've already stayed up too late trying to find it myself & this post is rushed coz of that but i feel like if i don't say it i'll forget 😭 anyway i swear earlier when i was bored asf at work i was scrolling through fraf and saw a rly insightful conversation abt the [niche] subcultural signifiers transgender ppl adopt in perhaps absence of attainability of more normative expressions w/in gender roles and how that relates to ppl's interpretations of hs character's genders uhguhgh i feel like if i paraphrase it anymore it'll sound ridiculous and not at all cool DOES ANYONE KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT was it not on fraf. i wanted to tell the person who was saying that stuff it was good. ok gn i have to SLEEP i hope i wake up to an epic answer thank u all