I also just find them relatable as sapphics idk doing things that are bad and then trying to make up for it later on but being lambasted for even trying or having people not believe me when I say I am sorry for it, having multiple men just sort of disregard my relationships with other women as unimportant or fleeting because our love couldn't possibly be as "profound" as that between men and women, even Kanaya's whole sexuality being seen as less of a valid sexuality and more so as a fetish or whatever are all things that I just kind of relate to as a real lesbian.