this is a really interesting thread with a lot of interesting points (my own take is boringly nuanced: hussie tries to engage with various complex topics and drops the ball sometimes, like with Fefeta: is she a comment on the misogyny of people reducing "nice" female characters to just being cute, is it just plain misogyny, or is it both? Same with the homophobia: they try to talk about and deconstruct homophonic tropes and sometimes fail and just Do A Homophobia)
What i am curious about is how you feel about meat!callieroxy? Not quite sure if achillean does or does not include nonbinary people, but in meat, callie and roxy are nonbinary and a man respectively, and are in a relationship. (Even though both characters are women in candy and they're also not in a relationship there? That might change tho, i don't agree with the people reading the candy!roxy gender speech and concluding that candy!roxy is canonically cis now)
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